Open letter to Alberta parents about LGBT policies
An open letter to Albertan parents RE: new LGBTQ policies kicking in:
You have concerns about the new guidelines that are being required by the province. I get it, you love your child and you want the best for them. Your family values are at risk.
Except they’re not. This isn’t about you. It’s not in regards to a nearly minuscule minority group either, as some opposition groups may have you believe. In some American cities that are considered the most “LGBT friendly”, 15/100 people identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender. If you consider all of the closeted queers, that figure is likely much higher. Yep, shocker! They’re all around you and you didn’t even know it.
A couple of PSAs to begin with
- People don’t become gay by some sort of infection that children get by being exposed to the ‘gay agenda’, whatever that means. I was sheltered as much as any other conservative Christian kid, and that didn’t stop 2/4 of the kids in my family from being gay. And NO, my parents did not do anything wrong.
- I know this has been said time and time again, but I’ll emphasize it just in case the message gets lost: people do not choose to be gay. The average human being usually considers having a normal life of love and family preferable, without losing family, being kicked out and even being subject to hate crimes. So why would we choose to live a life that’s interrupted by hatred and judgement from people who don’t even know us?
So, if there’s a significant number of students who are struggling with their sexual or gender orientation, and you consider the many messages out there that are telling them they’re basically disgusting..perverse.. unnatural.. wrong, for what they can’t change. Well those at risk children need some support, regardless of what your beliefs are. I can guarantee you Jesus didn’t preach for his followers to shun the gays to a life of fear and shame.
(P.S. if you believe that Christian scripture is anti-gay, or don’t know what to believe, I highly recommend watching this video, which basically shows that all 4(?) passages in the bible referring to homosexuality actually have nothing to do with present day sexuality and should possibly be disregarded entirely. I challenge you to watch it through, even if it takes a few sessions, as it is fairly lengthy)
That’s as far into religion as I will get, as I am fully aware that it is a touchy subject.
For some comic relief, let’s take a look at a rap from one of the parents who are against these LGBT policies.
So the argument is that boys will be in girls bathrooms, and vice versa. Let’s step into those trans peoples shoes for a minute and consider what going to the bathroom is like for them: either step into a bathroom that misidentifies you and will possibly result in abuse from people in that room, or simply be able to take a pee without being terrified. Personally I don’t know the experience of a trans person, and I hope I’m not overstepping, but I do have trans friends and know this is a daily reality.
Then there’s the issues of gay straight alliances (GSA)… which is an issue, why, exactly? Maybe you have a misguided view of them, but they’re not parading through the school, converting people to the gay agenda. They’re quietly there, ready to welcome anyone who feels a little different with open arms. Students who may be bullied, shamed, and simply terrified of what they’re learning about themselves.
ALSO. You absolutely DO NOT need to be notified that your child has come out or is a part of a GSA. They will come out when they are ready, and this is essential. I understand that maybe you’re concerned about your child, you need to be able to guide your family. But this is not about you. Your child is a human person, who is likely facing one of the biggest struggles they ever will, and speaking from my own experience and almost every LGBTQ person I’ve spoken to, coming out is a HUUUGE step. One that is not to be forced. Heck, if I knew I would be outed if I reached out for support, I wouldn’t. The suicide rate amongst LGBTQ people is high enough as it is.
Consider your own motivation behind needing to know immediately that your child has come out. Is your biggest concern your child’s wellbeing? That’s good, but their wellbeing is highly dependent on giving them the opportunity to come out when they’re ready. Many parents motivation behind wanting to know probably has nothing to do with their child’s wellbeing anyways.
So here’s an exact quote from the website of one of the groups lobbying the government about these policies:
THE GUIDELINES, IN AN ATTEMPT TO ESTABLISH AN ENVIRONMENT OF EQUALITY AND INCLUSION WITH REGARDS TO GENDER IDENTIFICATION, DISCRIMINATE AGAINST THE MAJORITY OF THE STUDENT POPULATION
I’m sorry what? Nifty website aside, you’re saying that the privileged, straight folk are being discriminated on? And your evidence is the extra support available (GSAs), if students desire it, and that students are scarred by having to pee next to harmless individuals that are questioning their gender identity? That just makes zero sense. Maybe you’re confusing whose the majority and the minority here.
Maybe you should be more concerned about bullying in schools, or teaching boys that girls aren’t theirs for the taking, or perhaps more closely monitoring your adolescent kids web surfing (I’m talking about porn folks, even innocent little Johnny and his buddies are looking at it).
There are more important battles in the world, so please don’t knock those who are already down. Help them up, even if their lifestyle doesn’t align with your beliefs. Be a decent human, and rest easy knowing your child won’t be any worse for it.